It’s about to go down!
After 22 years of being relaxed, I’m natural again. I have been natural for a week and I’m still in shock. My overprocessed relaxed hair was about APL but limp, damaged and lifeless. Do you have any idea how irritating it is to get a wash and set and not have a style in about two hours? What a waste of time and money! After repeatedly
trimming cutting my hair in hopes of achieving the dream relaxed hair of my youth, I decided enough was enough.
This is the last week for our BLMGirlsWrite February Link-Up. I’ve had a great time collaborating with SheBeKnowin and I hope everyone has enjoyed this month with us. This week’s topic deals with our favorite pictures. I’ve shared my top four favorite photos below. Since a picture is worth a thousand words, I won’t offer too many of my own below!
Me and My Husband After Our First Date
My husband and I dated 3 years before we got married and we have quite a few pics of us together. After our first fancy dinner, we took this picture. This picture shows how genuinely happy we were to be together and even the light is soft and romantic. We want to make it a point to have more pictures as our relationship continues but this will forever be one of my favorites.
Two of the best words that my husband can say to me are “date night.” We work opposite schedules and only share one night off so it’s always a good time when we can hit the town together. The one thing that gives me pause is selecting an outfit. The idea of dressing up is always fun but sometimes my closet can be limiting.
For the third week of the #BLMGirlsWrite link-up, SheBeKnowin and I thought it would be cool to plan looks for a night out. Whether you’re planning a date night with bae or looking to chill out with your girls, these three looks are sure to please.
We’re still fairly early in 2015 and I have already found five things I adore. This is a pretty diverse list but what can I say? I’m pretty well-rounded!
Azealia Banks’ Album – Broke with Expensive Taste
Regardless of the Twitter drama, I’m really loving this album. It’s not an album for the youngins as she’s very explicit but she also isn’t your typical hip hop artist. She expresses herself through Baltimore-club sounding songs, grimy hip hop, and even has a Beach Boys-esque song. There will definitely be at least one song to fit your mood. My personal favorites are 212 and Chasing Time.
Like most people, I absolutely love to travel. While my finances don’t always support my wanderlust, it doesn’t hurt to dream! My husband and I both enjoy traveling and we’re in agreement about some the places we want to go. Most of these are pretty standard but I still wanted to share them with you.
Sadly, I have yet to visit the west coast. I have always found Cali interesting and can’t wait to get out there. In-N-Out burger, sunny skies, Bay Area accents? Sign me up!
In my last post, I talked about resetting my hair regimen because I’m not seeing the results I want. Remember how excited I was to walk into Onederland? It was awhile ago and I’ve been skirting its borders for quite some time but I was a fairly upstanding citizen. Unhealthy behavior always catches up with you, though. Not exercising, not drinking water like it’s my job and overindulging have landed me outside of Onederland.
Looking back over my previous endeavors, I haven’t always set the most realistic goals. I’m not going to drive myself crazy or beat myself up but it IS time for a change. There are 66 weeks until my 30th birthday so I’m shooting for 1lb each week until then. If I can do this successfully, I will hit my goal weight!
Staying consistent is one of my biggest challenges. One of the ways that manifests is my hair journey. I have been at this for over five years (!!!) and my hair has been as long as below shoulder blade and a short as neck length. I’m currently grazing arm pit length but I intend to hit bra strap length by the end of 2015. I don’t have many new year’s resolutions but I know this is a good time to restart my hair regimen.
- Clarify wash once a month
– Shampoo and deep condition using heat weekly (or bi-weekly)
– Light protein treatment every two weeks
– Air dry hair using t-shirt method unless wearing roller set or protective style
– 5000mcg of Biotin daily
– Moisturize and seal 3-4x times per week
– Exercise 3-4 times per week
– Drink 64 ounces of water daily
– Stretch relaxer at least 16 weeks
– Heat pass once a month
I recently had an epiphany that has irrevocably changed my life. I can’t believe I’m going to share it with you but I think you deserve to know: I’m human and I fail. A lot. People share their highlight reels on social media so we never see the hustle, struggle, and mishaps that go into making people successful and noteworthy.
There is a lot of pressure to always have perfectly coiffed hair, flawlessly applied makeup, and the wittiest of responses. While that makes for tons of likes, double taps, and retweets where does that leave the mere mortals among us? Are those of us who try and fail simply doomed for a life of disappointment?
I’m 14 weeks post and I’ve been itching to install a protective style since Thanksgiving. So far, my favorite protective styles have been cornrows with Marley twists and crochet braids. Since moving to the Bronx from Queens, I no longer live near any salons I know or have my live-in stylist: my mom. There are probably plenty of places I could go for braids but I work best off of referrals, not blind luck.
Couple my difficulty finding a stylist with the somewhat prohibitive cost of protective styles and you’ll understand what’s taken me so long. I’ve been quoted $100-$140, plus hair! My low funds (and general laziness) have resulted in me getting Dominican doobies every 3 weeks and neglecting my hair in between. My hair is growing but is definitely suffering from my indifference.
I know I haven’t posted in forever but today is my six month halfiversary! It’s hard to believe we’ve been married for half a year but this has been a great learning experience so far.
I can tell you that the weekend before our wedding was the most stressful one either of us have ever had. Between running last minute errands and signing for our first apartment, it was insane. But we made it through to tell the tale. Since I’ve successfully survived planning my own wedding, I want to share some tips to ensure your big day is relatively stress-free.