Yesterday was my curlaversary and I’m so happy I stuck it out! I spontaneously decided to go natural last year so I didn’t transition, I big chopped. After the shiny newness of my style and the joy of being part of a big, beautiful community wore off, I looked at myself in the mirror and wonder, “Am I still beautiful?” Yes, my husband said so and some days I even felt it, but not frequently enough. I looked back at old pictures of my relaxed hair and began regretting cutting it all of. Long, straight hair had always been my favorite accessory but all I had to work with was tiny curls. What was I actually doing, anyway? It wasn’t long enough to braid so protective styles were out. I have all of these different textures represented on my head so I didn’t even have a consistent curl pattern. The longer it grew, the more I wondered how was I going to look presentable?
I love sleep more than Oprah loves bread. The only thing I love more than naps is sleeping in without setting an alarm. I’m pretty unique in that I can usually fall asleep on any relatively soft surface: air bed, futon, pull out couch, carpet etc.
I’m still able to fall asleep pretty much anywhere but, at the ripe age of damn-near-30 my body doesn’t feel the way it used to when I wake up. My husband and I had been sharing a full-sized mattress with a foam topper that just was NOT the business. The mattress sagged to one side and the foam topper would slide around in the middle of the night. Plus, the foam topper made the bed extra high which made it a challenge for
me my dog Bailey to climb into and out of. Tired of waking up to aches and pains, precariously perching and scaling the bed, I knew it was time to upgrade our sleeping sitch.
I have fallen so far off my fitness game, it’s laughable. With the demands of my new job, I’ve had trouble getting back into writing, let alone practicing self care. Luckily, one of my Facebook friends explicitly asked me about the 21 Day Water Challenge (#21DWC) for March and I promised her one is coming for April.
Since we all need to start somewhere, I’m starting small: by getting my water intake back under control. We all know that water does our hair, skin, nails a world of good but it can also aid in weight management. With all of this said, the April 2016 21 Day Water Challenge is starting on Monday April 4th. If you’ve been slacking or just need some encouragement, this challenge is for you.
After 22 years of being relaxed, I’m natural again. I have been natural for a week and I’m still in shock. My overprocessed relaxed hair was about APL but limp, damaged and lifeless. Do you have any idea how irritating it is to get a wash and set and not have a style in about two hours? What a waste of time and money! After repeatedly
trimming cutting my hair in hopes of achieving the dream relaxed hair of my youth, I decided enough was enough.
It occurred to me in the shower (where I do my best thinking) that I want to be natural by 30. Not GOING natural, I want to know my texture, love it and have some length. I’ve always flirted with the idea of transitioning but I know me. After months and months of stretching, I would see all the new growth and be like, “Ooh, I wonder how long my hair would be if I just relaxed it one more time!”
This is the last week for our BLMGirlsWrite February Link-Up. I’ve had a great time collaborating with SheBeKnowin and I hope everyone has enjoyed this month with us. This week’s topic deals with our favorite pictures. I’ve shared my top four favorite photos below. Since a picture is worth a thousand words, I won’t offer too many of my own below!
Me and My Husband After Our First Date
My husband and I dated 3 years before we got married and we have quite a few pics of us together. After our first fancy dinner, we took this picture. This picture shows how genuinely happy we were to be together and even the light is soft and romantic. We want to make it a point to have more pictures as our relationship continues but this will forever be one of my favorites.
Two of the best words that my husband can say to me are “date night.” We work opposite schedules and only share one night off so it’s always a good time when we can hit the town together. The one thing that gives me pause is selecting an outfit. The idea of dressing up is always fun but sometimes my closet can be limiting.
For the third week of the #BLMGirlsWrite link-up, SheBeKnowin and I thought it would be cool to plan looks for a night out. Whether you’re planning a date night with bae or looking to chill out with your girls, these three looks are sure to please.
We’re still fairly early in 2015 and I have already found five things I adore. This is a pretty diverse list but what can I say? I’m pretty well-rounded!
Azealia Banks’ Album – Broke with Expensive Taste
Regardless of the Twitter drama, I’m really loving this album. It’s not an album for the youngins as she’s very explicit but she also isn’t your typical hip hop artist. She expresses herself through Baltimore-club sounding songs, grimy hip hop, and even has a Beach Boys-esque song. There will definitely be at least one song to fit your mood. My personal favorites are 212 and Chasing Time.
Like most people, I absolutely love to travel. While my finances don’t always support my wanderlust, it doesn’t hurt to dream! My husband and I both enjoy traveling and we’re in agreement about some the places we want to go. Most of these are pretty standard but I still wanted to share them with you.
Sadly, I have yet to visit the west coast. I have always found Cali interesting and can’t wait to get out there. In-N-Out burger, sunny skies, Bay Area accents? Sign me up!
In my last post, I talked about resetting my hair regimen because I’m not seeing the results I want. Remember how excited I was to walk into Onederland? It was awhile ago and I’ve been skirting its borders for quite some time but I was a fairly upstanding citizen. Unhealthy behavior always catches up with you, though. Not exercising, not drinking water like it’s my job and overindulging have landed me outside of Onederland.
Looking back over my previous endeavors, I haven’t always set the most realistic goals. I’m not going to drive myself crazy or beat myself up but it IS time for a change. There are 66 weeks until my 30th birthday so I’m shooting for 1lb each week until then. If I can do this successfully, I will hit my goal weight!
Staying consistent is one of my biggest challenges. One of the ways that manifests is my hair journey. I have been at this for over five years (!!!) and my hair has been as long as below shoulder blade and a short as neck length. I’m currently grazing arm pit length but I intend to hit bra strap length by the end of 2015. I don’t have many new year’s resolutions but I know this is a good time to restart my hair regimen.
- Clarify wash once a month
– Shampoo and deep condition using heat weekly (or bi-weekly)
– Light protein treatment every two weeks
– Air dry hair using t-shirt method unless wearing roller set or protective style
– 5000mcg of Biotin daily
– Moisturize and seal 3-4x times per week
– Exercise 3-4 times per week
– Drink 64 ounces of water daily
– Stretch relaxer at least 16 weeks
– Heat pass once a month